It’s what we were all looking for in the first place we just didn’t know it. True love that is, the kind that comes from God. I guess as far as love in early recovery is concerned, the first pitfall we need to watch for is another wrong romance.
We all come in so needy and co-dependent the last thing we need is to hook up with someone sicker than we are! Passion can throw us no matter how strong we think we are, so let’s keep the main thing the main thing, staying clean and sober and finding our way.I was telling a friend yesterday in the rooms who is waiting for a medical solution, that the reason we know that we are finally submitting to a loving God, is that recovery works! You can expect a loving miracle, if you stay and do the work. What I will tell you is that it just may not look quite the way you thought it would, because God will give you your NEEDED version not your wanted one.
So how do we know if true love is manifesting through our recovery. Simple, as you honestly work the steps you will start to receive the fruits of the spirit outlined in the Bible. They are; love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. When I read through these I also understood that I had none of these gifts at the end of my addiction. As a matter of fact I was far more exhibiting the works of the flesh which are sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies. It only made sense. These dark traits manifest simple because without thinking, we had voluntarily submitted to the lower power over our years of addiction. The longer we stay there, the worse it gets… AMEN BROTHER! Purposely turning away from the darkness coming back over that invisible line and humbly resubmitting ourselves to a loving God by taking those first three steps is what we need to do.
If we continue steps four through nine we will gain the clarity and forgiveness we so desperately need. This clears the way for God loving flow to return. The promises of AA will also begin to materialize after the ninth for they are also in alinement with God’s blessed will for us much like the fruit of the spirit.
It sure seems like a miracle and I suppose it is but, there is a methodology. A spiritual malady requires spiritual solution. Repent which means change direction and gain that forgiveness you need by forgiving others. Not really that hard to accomplish, it just requires honesty, willingness and an open mind.
Its all yours, if you WANT it.